Honeymoon Trail Rides

Honeymoon Trail Rides
My husband and I on a trail ride for our honeymoon month. I am riding my oldest child Too Much Cow (Molly) who I've had since she was in her Mommy's tummy and Bob is riding Shady. A very sweet Appaloosa owned by my adopted auntie Sue.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Bobby Kitty Goes Jogging

Our family cat Bobby Kitty decided to start jogging today on the treadmill.  My Monkey boy, Andre has a concern about the animals gaining too much weight and has already tried previous times to put his Border Collie and mare on diets.  As October nears it's getting colder in the mornings so Bobby Kitty tries to sneak in the house for a morning warmup.  He has a nice garden shed to sleep in out of the elements but likes to pop in for a cuppa and some belly rubs.  We've had him and his brother Pablo Kitty since they were born 8 years ago so it was quite a suprise when I heard the treadmill turn on this morning as I was getting ready for work. I thought the kids were goofing off when they were supposed to be getting animals fed.  I was partially right.

Andre had turned on the treadmill at a very low speed and was holding Bobby Kitty over the treadmill's running surface encouraging him to run so that he could work off his fat tummy.  Now he's not fat, he's fluffy.  Winter fluffy.  The cat has reached larger proportions before so Andre's concern has some validity, but not today.  He has, what my dear Auntie would say, is a lion's belly.  Tristan, my way too cool 6th grader, swept in and rescued the annoyed kitty jogger before he could work up much of a sweat and catch his tail in the belt. 

When asked why he would do such a thing - Monkey Boy's response was "I didn't want him to get teased by the other cats because his belly is big like Garfield's.  Remember Mom when the alley cats made Garfield cry?"  Hmm, well the child was well meaning and dearly loves his kitty. So no disgusting tasks as punishment for a good deed gone awry.

Kitty still loves his kid and follows him around like a dog, hoping for a scratch behind the ears or on the belly.  Drooling all the while.  But I noticed Andre picked him up after he'd eaten for a couple of minutes to distract him.  I'll give him another handful when Monkey Boy goes to bed.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Exploring with Andre

Andre sitting on a petrified oak

Visiting the Ginko Petrified Forest.

Where we learned how the petrified wood was made in the volcano eruptions.
Who knew the Columbia Basin had 31 different types of trees that were petrified?









Amazing!!!



 




We then decided to hike up to see "Grandfather Let Loose the Ponies" on the Grant County side of the Columbia River. They are wonderful metal sculptures that we've always wanted to hike up to. Whew it is a hike too!!







Mommy only made it up 3/4 of the way before I made the mistake of looking down. But little Andre made it of course with Maggie his BC.




Andre & I in front of the Columbia River

It was a great day with a great kid!!

Monday, August 23, 2010

Two steps from Homeless



School is starting soon and I just took my two youngest sons school shopping in our favorite stores. They got to pick out quite a few different outfits each sticking to the budget I gave them before hand. We finished by going to one of my favorite restaurants The Old Spaghetti Factory for dinner. I love spending time with my children and realize that days like yesterday are numbered as they get older and will want to spend more time with their friends. We're moving soon to a new state so everything and every place will be a new adventure. I have two months to show them some of my favorite childhood places and help them remember where they started their lives.

I grew up going up to Spokane to visit my grandparents so am quite familiar with which parts are safe and which are not. My favorite restaurant happens to be in a part that can be questionable. I usually don't worry about that sort of thing. I believe that all adventures and experiences are growing experiences to be savored and embraced. Whether good, bad or scary. They are what makes us, us. I like to talk to people no matter where I am and have had conversations and meals with people in the ghetto of Charleston, a vegan cafe in Clonakilty, Ireland with two men who were members of the IRA and tea with a lady who might have been a voodoo priestess (I'm still not sure) also in Charleston, to name a few. I try to discipline myself to not think badly of people who are less fortunate than I. But I fear yesterday I failed miserably. I am a snob at heart.

My family has had their shares of hard time but we've always gotten by with my mom making the best of things. I have always had what I needed or wanted somehow. I would like to think that I am open-minded enough to be able to work with the homeless in a soup kitchen or help them find needed services. I've had a tiny bit of experience with this and have held that I would like to do more service work when we move to Florida where there are more programs available. Yesterday a homeless man approached me begging for money for food. I knew that there was a shelter close by so I lied and told him I didn’t have any cash. My littlest immediately picked up on that and was shocked that I would lie. I told him that it wasn’t safe to give a homeless person money because it might be a trick and the person might rob you or they might use it for drugs or booze. When did I become holier than thou? When did I apply for the all knowing position?

Today I am disgusted with myself that I set such an example for my sons. I am not better than that man and should not have presumed to decide how he should get money or food. I’ve made some bad decisions in my short life and if it wasn’t for my family and friends I could be where he is today. Somehow I’ve turned from the ideals I held up high to the mainstream blindness that I despised.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Rescued Border Collies & their side kick


The boys
Originally uploaded by Sarah Lynn 76
 - Magdalena (far left), Cutacow Xander (center) and my Mom's puppy Sirius (she bred Cutacow Sirius).

Sirius is learning how to be a show dog. He is already an experienced cattle dog taught by his Grammie Scottie; our old cattle dog and Grand Dame of the ranch.

Maggie was given to us by some ladies who found her lost and wandering alone in a field. She loves and takes care of my youngest son very well. She is a bit deaf and very frightened of loud noises.

Cutacow Xander was bred by my mother years ago (he is Sirius's uncle and Grammie Scottie's oldest son) and was sold to a woman who trained and showed him extensively. She did quite well and won several championships with him. She met a man online and the man did not get along at all with Xander. She chose the man over the dog.  They took Xander to the local Humane society and abandoned him saying they had found him along side of the road. My aunt found out that he was taken there and called my Dad. I adopted him from the shelter with the intention of our families fostering him until a new home could be found. He worked his way into our hearts and we decided to keep him. My oldest son showed him 3 months after we rescued him from jail and won our county's 4-H Jr Obedience moving on to the state level where he won his division and placed 2nd overall for the state by half a point. He accidentally gave a double command.

The dog still has his quirks but has become a very loving and wonderful addition to our family.  All three of these dogs are very different in personalities and temperments but love each other very much.  It's a joy to watch them sleep together or play after the scary times Maggie & Xander had before they found their way to our family.  You can tell by their attitudes that they were both once loved very much.  They want to be good and caring dogs.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Due to. . . .

My husband is working and living in Florida right now. Our kids and I live in Washington.

Due to my husband's move to keep his job after the market for his specialized field dried up in the Pacific Northwest we have had to maintain two households.

Due to this extreme geographical distance we do not get to see each other very often and so have to discuss everyday issues such as insurance coverage, bills, parenting, color of my hair by phone, emails or text messages.

Due to the stress of not being able to discuss such issues as a normal married couple would. We have the added stress on our relatively new marriage of me loosing my temper because he calls at inconvenient times. When the kids, who normally are well behaved just water bombed the dog or spilled something in the kitchen and forgot to clean it up. Or he just doesn't understand what the issue is with a bill, because, like me he is a visual person and to have me describing something to him 2,800 miles away the problem's details get lost on the airwaves.

Due to me having a wild past and having different fathers for my sons. Deciding an issue such as health insurance coverage that is affordable but still good coverage or why a child can not go see a rated R movie can become a United Nations discussion in need of a third party mediator. Usually my best friend or my parents. They all probably want to block my number but love me so haven't yet.

Due to me being an independent sort and basically raising my sons by myself because of break ups with their fathers and my husband constantly travelling for work my sons are turning out just like me and so just jump in and solve a problem for themselves forgetting that other people should sometimes be consulted. Usually their problem solving needs some tweaking. At least for now it does until they have more experience.

Due to me parenting mainly alone I forget that I am married now and should let my husband father once in a while without me jumping in to correct things to how I think they should go down.

Due to my husband having just moved to Florida and us living in Washington he mainly has "work" friends. It's hard to make close friends when you work construction and one of you will be moving on at the end of the job. So he doesn't always have a lot going on during the weekends when we are our busiest with different kids' activities.

Due to having to discuss the same topic with many different people when it regards my sons I'm thinking of buying stock in Tylenol and Tums.

Due to getting tired of the geographical distance between my husband and us I've decided to pack up all the animals, my boys and household goods and run away to the sea. Nothing heals the heart and nerves like lying next to the ocean and listening to the waves while your kids make sand castles...

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Sitting in the Darkness

I am sitting in a straight backed chair in a room that is completely dark.  It is a dark that cannot be penetrated.  It is inky and complete.  I don't know for certain but believe that there are no doors, no windows, but somehow I have enough air and that is not a concern for me as I sit here.The same way I know that there are no doors or windows, I am sure that the walls are made of glass.  It is what is beyond those walls that frightens me.  I feel like the next layer beyond the inky blackness and glass walls is made up of red, swirling demons akin to a Chinese drawing of dragons.  They swirl around weightless beyond the glass waiting to for me to move so that they can move through the glass and rip me apart.  I hear the boys laughing and playing then, just beyond the dragons.  But they don't seem to notice the dragons moving about.  Are we in a basement or are we in a field with flowers and sunshine where my cube is anchored in a meadow?  I can't quite decide.  Only then do I start to feel the urge to move and warn the boys.  The largest dragon stops in front of me outside the glass and faces me speaking to me in Irish.  I completely understand him when he tells me that . . . .  (I woke up).

I dreamed this last night and woke up to the rain on my roof.  Usually a sound I love.  Today after my dream it seemed foreboding.  I've looked up what the dream could mean and in a nutshell my subconscious is telling me that I need to keep my temper in check or I could loose what I love more than anything.  That if I will let myself let go happiness lies in wait for me but I have to work through my wanting to control my environment.

Friday, April 23, 2010

BROKEN LOVE


MY Spectre around me night and day
Like a wild beast guards my way;
My Emanation far within
Weeps incessantly for my sin.

‘A fathomless and boundless deep,
There we wander, there we weep;
on the hungry craving wind
My Spectre follows thee behind.

'He scents thy footsteps in the snow
Wheresoever thou dost go,
Thro’ the wintry hail and rain.
When wilt thou return again?

’Dost thou not in pride and scorn
Fill with tempests all my morn,
And with jealousies and fears
Fill my pleasant nights with tears?

‘Seven of my sweet loves thy knife
Has bereavèd of their life.
Their marble tombs I built with tears,
And with cold and shuddering fears.

‘Seven more loves weep night and day
Round the tombs where my loves lay,
And seven more loves attend each night
Around my couch with torches bright.

‘And seven more loves in my bed
Crown with wine my mournful head,
Pitying and forgiving all
Thy transgressions great and small.

‘When wilt thou return and view
My loves, and them to life renew?
When wilt thou return and live?
When wilt thou pity as I forgive?’
‘O’er my sins thou sit and moan:
Hast thou no sins of thy own?
O’er my sins thou sit and weep,
And lull thy own sins fast asleep.

‘What transgressions I commit
Are for thy transgressions fit.
They thy harlots, thou their slave;
And my bed becomes their grave.
‘Never, never, I return:
Still for victory I burn.
Living, thee alone I’ll have;
And when dead I’ll be thy grave.

‘Thro’ the Heaven and Earth and Hell

Thou shall never, quell:
I will fly and thou pursue:
Night and morn the flight renew.’

‘Poor, pale, pitiable form
That I follow in a storm;
Iron tears and groans of lead
Bind around my aching head.
‘Till I turn from Female love
And root up the Infernal Grove,
I shall never worthy be
To step into Eternity.
‘And, to end thy cruel mocks,
Annihilate thee on the rocks,
And another form create
To be subservient to my fate.

‘Let us agree to give up love,
And root up the Infernal Grove;
Then shall we return and see
The worlds of happy Eternity.

‘And throughout all Eternity
I forgive you, you forgive me.
As our dear Redeemer said:
“This the Wine, and this the Bread.”’



William Blake



Tuesday, April 20, 2010

When are You Grown?


When do you know that you're an adult?  When is that you know that you can't run home again?  Is it when you graduate from high school?  Is that an instant induction to adulthood?  Or is it when you pack your car full of all the necessities and drive off for that first time?  Maybe it's when you have your first place and a real job living on top ramen and diet dr pepper so that you can afford gas, rent and cool clothes and the only time you really eat is when you show up for Sunday dinner or go on a date.  Or is it when you have your first real heart break.  Your tears must make you an adult, right?  Maybe it's when you give birth to your first child.  When you hold that beautiful creature in your arms and see his sweet little face and know everything was worth all the trouble you went through to have him.  Maybe it's when you say I do to the man you fell instantly in love with.

I don't really know, most of the time I don't feel like I'm all that grown up.  Even though I have a son who will be 11 in 3 weeks and my baby will be 9 two weeks after that.  My stepson who I've just gotten to know well in the past year is thinking about getting married to a girl who seems nice, although I haven't actually met her yet.  He's happy and that makes me happy.  

But, sometimes a song will come on the radio that will remind me of some crazy party, club, or boyfriend that I had at the time the song came out and during the time I was  scrimping and saving  every penny to pay my bills and tuition and keep from having to move home.   I'll daydream for a bit about what it used to be like and then back to reality.  Somewhere along the way the partying stopped being important, once I had those beautiful little boys with their dark brown hair and beautiful big brown eyes that follow me everywhere and still think that I'm the smartest Mama they know.  Everything that was once important isn't any longer. 

One of my dearest friends died 2 weeks ago.  He was 89 1/2 years old.  He always said if you want to stay young be around young at heart people, grow old by being around old fogies.  I will never let my hair grow grey, I will always dance in the rain and snow, I'll always make snow angels with my boys, color with crayons and blow bubbles to make the cats dance and little boys laugh, I'll always crank the radio when I hear one of my favorite songs, dance just to dance and keep my hair long because my husband thinks I'm beautiful that way and I myself love my hair long, I will always feel just a little like a gypsy at heart.  I love flashy jewelry, painting abstract realism, my crazy dogs, listening to music of every sort, cooking new recipes and traveling around the world and starting conversations in mid sentence with my friends that I've had since I was a little girl. 

I hope that someday when I pass on my sons will have nothing but fond memories of our time together just  like my friend's family has of him.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Watching My Son Struggle

My 8 1/2 year old son has ADHD. He is smart, funny, imaginative, sensitive, loving, well mannered and wild. He can in the range of a day take you through every emotion known to man. He didn't speak until he was almost 2 1/2 but has made up for it since. He didn't have to speak. He has a big brother who spoke and did for him.


My son is the product of a very, very tumultuous relationship with a beautiful man suffering from a classic case of Peter Pan syndrome. Our relationship was never violent physically but emotionally we tore each other apart. It did not lend itself well to an easy pregnancy and my older son has had anger issues as a result of seeing us fight for so long. I have no idea how many times we separated and reconciled.

The hard thing is that my son looks just like his dad and mimics some of his mannerisms so well that I want to tell him Stop! Don’t do that again. But how could I do that to my little boy. He has the most beautiful eyes. They are very dark brown just like his father and I have.

When my son was in preschool the teacher suggested that we hold him back a year before enrolling him in Kindergarten. My son's father would not hear of it. His family is traditional Mexican. They are very good people who love my son but could not and still really do not accept that there is something different about our child. My son went to Kindergarten and was a hit with the kids and teachers. I've never gotten a bad behavior report from school on this child. Although there was a table dancing incident in the library once. Kindergarten was when we really began to see struggles emerge. He had trouble sitting still and cutting things out. You wouldn't think that this would be a major problem, but apparently it is.

His struggles at school continued and I got tired of telling his father about calls and reports from his teacher so I made his dad go with me to conferences and to have our son tested for possible ADHD. People who say that ADHD is not a real disorder but is a result of bad parenting really, really do NOT know what they are talking about. You watch your child struggle with homework or get upset when he can't make friends or cry and cry because a pet died or the topper is when he does dangerous stunts to impress other kids so that they'll like him. When these people say nasty things to parents of children with ADHD you have no idea how much you are pushing a raw nerve and how badly I want to tell you off, but won't because my sons are watching.

I found that the doctors weren't actually the obstacle - it was the school. They have so many children with different difficulties that they actually want a child to be medicated so that the blame for ignoring a child’s needs or downplaying them is not on their shoulders. If there is an educator reading this, please do not get defensive, this is true I speak from personal experience and talking to many parents with children like mine. You may not have had to deal with this directly but we've been in 2 school districts and dealt with 3 different principles, 6 teachers and 4 psychologists who wanted more and more medication for our 50 lb child. It's hard enough now to get him to finish his food, unless it's homemade macaroni or pot roast.

Our son was finally diagnosed with mild ADHD and mild Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. We had a great doctor who finally helped put everything in order and explained our son's learning disability to us in a way we could understand and not feel guilty that we'd permanently damaged him.

It took us 8 months to get an IEP (Individual Education Program). We had been told by our previous school district that one was in place, this proved to be a cover-up. Someone in the counseling department had dropped the ball. This IEP would ensure that our child could learn Math (which was his primary difficulty) in a way that he would not be penalized for not being able to keep up with the rest of the class. That he could have a break during tests and get to walk around in the hall way or test away from other kids so that he would not be a distraction or they would not distract him. It is absolutely unbelievable in this day and age how many teachers are resistant to a change in protocol. My mom has a friend who works in Special Services and has advised me many times of who to talk to or what services could benefit my child. She has been a Godsend. Finally our child is starting to "get" math and seems to want to do it more. His handwriting is still atrocious and drives the teachers and me crazy.

We are supposed to review the IEP in a couple of weeks. I am dreading this somewhat because the teachers for the most part don't want to be troubled by the extra work of teaching one child differently than the others. The special education teacher has been great but getting the regular teachers to adhere to the IEP even if it is a legal document has been difficult. I worry that they are rude to my child because of this and he doesn't tell me because he knows I'll go to the school and raise a fuss.

My son’s father is on board now that he's heard so many different voices telling him about problems that our son has had and seen the real progress that he's making with the help of tutoring from the Math department. My family has always been supportive of our son's struggles they went through it themselves with my 2nd oldest brother. However my son's fathers family is not on board they think that this is a phase to be grown out of and that since he lives with me I'm not doing something right.

My sweet husband keeps giving me pep talks. He's been through all of this ADHD drama with his son who is 21 now and is slowly turning into a great man. I know that my little boy will be okay but it breaks my heart to hear him want to give up on something difficult and to so easily think that people are his friends. He is my baby and I've had to fight so hard to get him the help that he's needed that I have a hard time realizing that he is getting older and all too soon I won't be able to make things better for him like I want to.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Starry Nights

One of the things that I love about living in the country are the stars.  I love being able to sit outside with my kids at night and look at the beautiful sky all around us.  There are no trees to block our view.  No cars honking or driving by to distract us.  My 11 year old can name quite a few of the constellations.  He's learned them from sleeping under the constellation exhibit at the Seattle Science Center during 4-H weekend.  I had no idea that he knew these.  I know where the big dipper is and sometimes I can find the Northern Star.  My littlest would like to attend this year and maybe, just maybe he'll get to go.  He's a little wilder than his brother.  He wants to go to summer camp this year with his brother so Science weekend would be a good trial. 

We love to talk about how old the stars are and how far away they are.  The boys always debate which ones have aliens living on them and what they like to do. 

How many other families sit out under the stars having conversations like this?  I'd like to think quite a few.  To me it's one of those stolen moments that I'll cherish forever.  Time with my children to hear them imagine.  All too soon they won't have time to sit with Mommy.  But for now I'll take all the starry nights that I can and feel sorry for those parents that didn't take 15 minutes to sit outside with their kids and look at the moon and stars.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Much Madness is divinest Sense




Much Madness is divinest Sense —

To a discerning Eye —

Much Sense — the starkest Madness —

’Tis the Majority

In this, as All, prevail —

Assent — and you are sane —

Demur — you’re straightway dangerous —

And handled with a Chain —

-by Emily Dickinson



Friday, February 5, 2010

Kissing Frogs


How many frogs have you kissed? Are you one of those "lucky" few who married your first love right out of high school or college? How do you know that you didn't just marry a frog and that Prince/Princess Charming is still out there and you just missed them as you were driving by? One of my high school friends married her high school sweetheart and she used to say that all she wanted to do was get married, have kids and be a housewife. Well mission accomplished! She did it, and you know what? He has a head full of gray hair and she always has this pinched look on her face. They're only 33. So did they find love for all time? Well I'd like to think so because they are nice people and have never really done anything wrong as far as I know. They just chose another life than the one I had envisioned for myself. I, too, had that high school boyfriend that I was going to marry, have 2.5 kids with and celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary with some day, but he turned out to be a frog. Or maybe I was his frog, I don't know. We were, however, a beautiful couple together and would have had beautiful babies if the whole thing hadn't gone wrong. We had one of those breakups where you just don't fight anymore, one person leaves to go do something and the other just packs up and leaves. I left while he was at work.

So my question is do you have to kiss the frogs before you know you've found the right one? What if the right one was just having a bad day or chapped lips? Do you throw him/her on the discard pile anyway? I myself have kissed many froggies and at least 2 toads. The toads unfortunately I'm stuck with for a while, since I have children with them. I asked some of my friends how many frogs they had to kiss and several agreed that you had to kiss frogs before you found your prince/princess, but they had indeed found their prince/princess after all the kissing. So to truly know and appreciate your prince you must have to kiss a frog, right? How many do you kiss before you become a serial frog kisser?
10 years ago I would most likely not have given my prince a second thought. I probably would have given him the kiss off. Back then I was a self-involved princess that was used to getting her way and only cared about partying, having a good time, new clothes and a cute boyfriend. I would have said oh, yeah he's cute and then moved on. My prince is 14 years older than me. He was fighting in Lebanon in the Marines when I was in grade school. But having survived my frog kissing days I've found that he's the only one I want to kiss. Some of my friends were floored that I would marry a man 14 years my senior. "What do you have in common?" or "He's so much older than you." were common phrases when I announced our engagement and soon after marriage. He is my prince because of the way he treats me, the way he looks at me, and the way he lets me be crazy or silly and still loves me. He has had his share of frogs too, so he has learned to let a lot of things slide that aren't worth getting worked up over.
I've been thinking about this frog theory some lately, because our oldest just had his heart stomped on by a girl that he thought was "the one." They had dated for quite a while a couple of years ago, but she moved and they broke up. She started seeing someone else but kept talking to our son as friends. She must have had a fight with her boyfriend and had gone back to our son to make the other guy jealous. She then decided to go back to her boyfriend telling our son "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." Ouch, ouch, ouch. He's only 20 so this whole ordeal has been earth shattering. He's getting over it and in a couple weeks he'll move on to another girl.
Our almost 11 year old is starting to discover that girls are not so bad and always has girls coming up to him to talk at football or basketball games. I wish that the boys didn't have to kiss frogs and maybe they'll luck out and only have to kiss a few before they find their princess. Who knows?
At least our littlest still thinks girls are gross and infested with cooties for now.
Although I must end this on the note that there is hope for first loves being “The One.” Another of my friends and her high school boyfriend have been married for 15 years and are still hopelessly in love with each other and want to spend time together. He just built her a beautiful house and they have 3 beautiful kids together. So there is hope for the fairy tale after all.

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Surviving the Swamp

My sons asked me to write down my adventure in the swamp. So here goes:


In November 2009 during Thanksgiving vacation. I was visiting my husband in Charleston, South Carolina. He had to work most of the time so I again had researched different spots that I wanted to take in while there. I had a good time walking around Charleston seeing the different sites and taking lots and lots of pictures. My absolute favorite was south of Charleston at Drayton Hall. But that's a different story.

I had been site seeing for several days and visiting with my husband's family and co-workers and decided that I needed to get out into nature and see the real South Carolina. I had read about Moncks Corner Swamp Garden. It was 80 acres of open swamp that you can explore by row boat. I have lived my entire life in the desert. Not sandy Sahara desert, but sagebrush, cliffs, 114 dry heat and bitterly cold Northern winters. So I wanted to take the opportunity to see a swamp and take pictures with my new camera. Wow did I get some pictures!

The Garden started off innocently enough. There was a lovely hot house that had many different butterfly specimens flying around, birds and lots of different flowers and plants native to the South East. I moved on to the Reptile building and took pictures for my sons as I knew they would want to see the scary snakes and alligators. There were 2 alligators in a pond fenced off from the public. I watched the alligators laying there in the water and marveled at how large their mouths were. After finishing the snake house tour I went in and asked the clerk how much for the swamp tour. She asked me whether I knew how to row a boat and I said yes I do. She told me then that since I knew how to row I didn't need a guide and the tour was free. I should proceed on down to the boat house, pick out a seat cushion, oar and boat and follow the white arrows nailed to the trees. That was it, nothing more. What a false sell!

I found a row boat and got it untied and started paddling. Right next to the boathouse is an island that had been used by Francis Marion "The Swamp Fox" during the American Revolution to hide from the British. It had an abandoned Spanish Mission on it at that time. Nothing now is left except gate posts. I should mention at this time that the 80 acres of swamp had been dug out by slave labor when their master had grown tired of growing rice in that area and wanted a swamp for his amusement. OK! sounds fun doesn't it? I took some great pictures of the swamp and followed the arrows along until (cue corny horror music) my husband called and asked me what I was doing. I told him about my swamp ride and he started laughing and told me to be careful of water moccasins swimming up to the boat and crawling in with me. What! Anyone who knows me knows that I am deathly afraid of snakes any shape, form or anything. The possibility of running into them really hadn’t crossed my mind. So I started paddling a little faster, looking over my shoulder as I went to make sure the snakes hadn't been woken up by the ringing of the phone and decided to murder me. I was so freaked out and irrational at this point that I missed several of the arrows.

Now the woman at the desk had told me that I would have to go under many footbridges during my tour. I came up to a bridge so low that I had to lean all the way back in the boat and keep paddling. As soon as I cleared the bridge I realized that I was in trouble and indeed very, very lost. If you have ever been near a swamp or mucky pond you know how the green gunk on top closes in behind you and erases your path. I had no option except to go forward. I looked at my map and read again 80 ACRES of OPEN Swamp. I spotted an old decrepit dock about 200 feet away with a strange metal framework around it. I decided that I needed to get out of the boat ASAP. I started rowing over to the dock and got stuck on roots. Oh my goodness was I scared. I had earlier tried my oar in the water to see how deep the swamp was and it went WAY over the oar. So I worked my way off the roots and started paddling again and lo and behold I saw a snout come up out of the water. I had been told earlier that there weren't alligators in the wild near Charleston. Those people need to shut up and get their facts straight. There are indeed alligators alive and well in the wilds of Moncks Corner, South Carolina. The snout went down leaving ripples in the water. Oh my heck did I start paddling fast. I probably looked like a Looney Tunes cartoon. Dammit I got stuck again on the first trees cousin’s roots. As I was desperately working my way off without capsizing I saw a ridge of an alligator go by about 20 feet away. I said some bad words and started paddling again, more quickly. I made it to the dock, threw my camera up so that if the alligator attacked someone would eventually find the camera and let my family know where I died. I tied the boat up to the metal frame and got out of the boat. I stood there for a second deciding what to do and suddenly had flashbacks of every stupid Sci-Fi Channel movie I've ever watched with alligators. So I decided to leave the boat and walk back to the boathouse.

Needless to say I went the wrong way and ended up in a very, very scary Horror movie graveyard and then had to walk 2 miles back. I was so frustrated, tired and hot by the time that I got back. No one was around the place when I got back so I just walked out and left.

My husband later told me that the metal frame was probably an alligator feeding station. I would like to think that he was teasing me. For his sake. This story has brought many laughs and amusement to my friends and family. So here you go boys. Here's mama's crazy swamp survival story.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

The mob within the heart


The mob within the heart by Emily Dickinson

The mob within the heart
Police cannot suppress
The riot given at the first
Is authorized as peace

Uncertified of scene
Or signified of sound
But growing like a hurricane
In a congenial ground.

Monday, January 11, 2010

Learning to Travel by Yourself



I've never been afraid to travel by myself. I know that feeling like that isn't always the wisest decision in times like these, but that's how I am. My parents raised me to be independent and inquisitive. We traveled a lot when I was a kid and teenager, up and down the West Coast attending various Rodeos, Horse Shows, and visiting family. My mother always made a point of making detours when she saw the road signs for a historic landmark or a museum, when we had time. We did a lot of sight seeing for free. At the time I would groan and wish that we could just get on with it. The distance between our home and the horse shows was sometimes very great and we had a 1977 Ford Pickup with a single cab and no air conditioning. It wasn't that I didn't enjoy seeing new country, I did. You just get tired of sitting next to your annoying little brother for hours on end. I enjoy reading but get very car sick so couldn't distract myself with that.

Mom found some great things for us to see and do. One of my favorites was stopping to see the Multonamah Falls in Oregon. I think I was around 11 or 12 and loved the legend of the Indian princess sacrificing herself to save her people from sickness. If you ever get to travel along the Columbia River Gorge, stop there and walk up to the falls. It's really worth the hike. Traveling has always been a passion in my family. My Auntie used to travel all over the world even after she had been diagnosed with cancer. She passed that on to my mom and I. My Grammie helped instill the travel bug in me also. My first memory that I clearly have was visiting Los Angeles with her to see my mom's next eldest sister. They took me to swim in the Pacific Ocean and visit Disneyland. I really didn't like "It's a Small World", but I loved playing with my aunt and watching her play her cello.

So having had the "travel bug" bite at such a young age I jumped at the chance to travel to Ireland last year when my husband was working over in Kinsale, County Cork. His company had rented him a flat and a car so we only had to pay for a ticket and spending money. We shopped and shopped for weeks before settling on a itinerary that suited our plans. He was over in Ireland already so I would have to fly by myself. Some of my girlfriends couldn't believe that I would dare to do something like this, especially since I had to stay the night in Chicago. It was 15 to 20 below zero that night. Holy Cow it was cold! But you know what? I loved it! I stayed at a hotel that I'd found on Hotel.com and it was run by a Hindu family that couldn't have been nicer. I got to see the Statue of Liberty as I flew into Newark Airport. I was at Newark for 4 1/2 hrs and wish that I could have gone out to see her but was assured by my husband that there was no way I would make it back in time. Oh well, that will be another trip, one to take with all of our boys.

I wish that people did not make it seem like traveling is such a chore. Yes, sometimes you run into grumpy people who are determined to be unhappy but for the most part a smile and thank you does wonders for getting people to be nice to you. My husband borrowed a GPS from one of the men he worked with during my stay. So it was programmed with Irish maps and I could safely drive around without getting lost. I might still be there if it hadn't been for that GPS. My husband tried to show me how to drive my 2nd day there but he made me too nervous and we gave up. He, however, ended up getting pneumonia and I decided that I wasn't going to sit in the flat the whole trip. So I took him to a doctor, got him medicine, bedded him down and went on my way.

I've fallen in love instantly twice - once with my husband and once with Ireland. It wasn't just the green hills rolling and rolling into the distance, the acres of sheep or the rivers that popped out of no where. It was the layers of history upon layers of history that unfold within a few miles. We were staying in the South East corner of Ireland in the country's largest county and in one week I didn't see all that I wanted to in that area. I had researched carefully sites that I wanted to see. I had decided that I had to see Mizen Head. This is in the most SE corner of Ireland that you can stand on and it is amazing and humbling to stand there on a rock with black waves crashing around you. You feel like you are the only person on the planet as you watch the waves. Right behind me was a Druid tomb and within a stones throw there was a 15th century graveyard and ruined church.

The first day I was there we saw a keep that belonged to the National Trust with IRA spray painted on the side. I, of course had to get a picture. I had to show my friends and family at home this amazing site. Some friends my husband had made prior to me arriving assured me that the "troubles" had been over for years and that I had nothing to worry about. They were totally right! All of the people, and I mean all were very polite and kind. I found a vegan cafe one day in my wanderings and had lunch and a cuppa tea sharing a table with some gentlemen that had IRA tattoos on their arms. They were great and told me about some sites to try and take in. My friend Nuula and I rode the bus and train up to Cobh and walked all around the city taking pictures and shopping.

I was there for 10 days and never felt more at home in my life except when I come home to my sagebrush. I keep telling my husband that we need to win the lottery so that he can buy me a 2nd home there. I've even researched family farms that we could buy. He just laughs and tells me some day. My husband and parents always tell me to be careful and have fun, take lots of pictures. Its amazing getting to travel as much as I have and hope that I get to continue this way. My sons got to go with me on their first airplane ride this past July and now they too have the "travel bug" and want to know when we can go on another adventure. I'm glad that my parents raised me to be independent and inquisitive enough to travel and enjoy new cultures on my terms and not to be dependent on someone else to tell me what I should see or do. Traveling the way I've learned from my family lets me really learn about places and learn from the people I meet.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

Learning to Sleep Alone

It's been 4 days since I got on several planes to come home from seeing my husband in Charleston, South Carolina. 14 hrs of flying and 2200 miles do not ease or erase the pain of leaving him again. We've been married for 20 months and I always thought that it would get easier to take each time that I had to come home. It doesn't.

Oh, your busy making your flights and putting up with crabby airport people so you don't really think about it then. Just the sharp stab of goodbye as you get ready to go through security and that wave goodbye with a blown kiss. Then you get home and the little boys and animals are so happy to see you thier hugs and kisses ease the lonlieness to the back of your mind for a while.

It's after you've put everyone to bed, swept up, done any dishes and washed your face that it starts to hit. Turning back the bed you realize how cold and univiting the bed you so carefully decorated looks. But it's already 10:30 so you have to get to bed. There's work tomorrow and you already look haggard from the traveling. So try and watch a show that you recorded while you were gone. Fall asleep for a couple hours and wake up around 1 reaching for your husband. I do this several times each night, after every trip. I really hate it when I wake up saying his name. My grandmother once told me that when you do this the person you called for was thinking about you and missing you. I hope that's true.

So tonight is night 5 and I'll do it all over again. The little boys are going to bed and my sweet husband is 3 times zones away so it's too late to hear his voice once more. I'll say my prayers, look in on the boys and watch some TV for a bit.

Tomorrow will be a new adventure.